Saturday, April 16, 2016

A Dissertaion on Life from Rusty in Winnipeg

I'm a member of a group, it's a loose group , but still a group of sorts. We're tied together from being or having been North American broadcasters...Rusty Smith posted his story the other day....

WINNIPEG MANITOBA—The best years in the life of Rusty Smith—veteran, husband, and father of five—are never going to happen, the 43-year-old broken man realized Monday.

"Well, I guess that's that," said Smith, sitting in his pickup waiting for the light to change on Talbot, the realization finally smacking him full in the face. "This is it—it's not going to get any better. In fact, it's probably just going to be a gradual but steady decline from here on."

Rusty, who for years had waited for something to bring him satisfaction, then pulled over to the side of the road on Regent and watched cars pass by for an hour and a half. By the time he returned to the split-level ranch home on Horton he purchased at a high mortgage rate in 1999 and has yet to pay off, his wife was angry with him, his favorite TV show was over, and his cold dinner had been given to the family dog.

"I guess I always just figured the really good years were right around the corner," Smith said. "What a pantload. I remember in high school, thinking that as soon as I got a car, the best years were really gonna kick in. I'd be able to go anywhere, get girls, maybe get laid, and people would think I was cool. Then, when I finally got a car, it was such a shitheap, I figured that once I got a better car, then everything would be fine. Well, you know what? I've owned 11 cars in my life, and I thought the same exact thing about each one of the fuckers. Not one in the succession of cars I've bought since I was 16 has ever done anything for me but drag my sorry ass to and from work every goddamn day of my life. That's it."

Shortly after returning home, Rusty, feeling himself inexorably drawn into a vortex of despair, made his way to the upstairs bathroom, where, despite having no need to use the facilities, he sat on the toilet for approximately 20 minutes to avoid all human contact. The last seven of those 20 minutes were spent trying to ignore the pounding and whining of his teenage daughter Robyn, who pleaded with him to unlock the door so she could "get [her] face on."

Rusty eventually relocated to the garage, where he stood next to his workbench and made patterns in the floor dust with his foot. While doing so, he pondered the fact that achieving his goal of getting laid merely resulted in the birth of another human being who wanted to get laid, too.
"I know Robyn thinks that if she gets one of the boys at school interested in her, she'll be popular, and that the best years of her life will begin," Smith said. "Little does she know she's just perpetuating an endless string of DNA replication that isn't going anywhere."
After nearly an hour in the garage, Rusty Smith walked to his driveway and stared at a rake lying on its side on the front lawn.

"After I graduated high school in '90, I joined the Navy. I thought the best years of my life would finally arrive because I'd get out of this boring hellhole of a Province," Smith said. "I now see that the feeling was oddly similar to the one I had in '92, right before I finished my first tour in the Navy, and all I wanted to do was get back to Transcona where things were so much better. Why couldn't I see it at the time?"

Over the course of Rusty's life, each time he reached a milestone, he believed that his best years were about to begin. Among these life events were losing his virginity, getting married, fathering his first through fifth child, having his children move out, buying a better house, and getting his overbite fixed. None of these events, however, made the slightest impact on his overall happiness.

Compounding Smith's misery were depressing thoughts about the many things he has never gotten around to doing, including playing harmonica in a blues-rock band, breaking a 250 score in bowling, traveling to the ancient pyramids of Egypt, and learning to play harmonica in the first place.

"It's like you're thinking, 'The world's my oyster and anything is possible,'" Rusty said. "'As soon as this next immediate obstacle to happiness is cleared, I'll be able to do anything I want.' Then the goals become less and less realistic as you pass 35, and you start to set more modest goals for the best years of your life, like making shift supervisor at the goddamn shipping company where you work. Eventually, even these pathetically scaled-down fantasies prove unworkable, since some asshole named Ron Stanke has seniority at the plant and obviously isn't going anywhere. Suddenly, you're 41, and at long last, you figure out that whatever it is you're hypothetically still waiting for, it's pretty much irrelevant. Then you go to bed and have to work at the shipping company for another nine hours the next day, and that's pretty much that."

"I guess I should stop thinking about life as something that even involves the term 'best years of my life,'" Smith told the rearview mirror of his car while parked behind a local Wendy's, eating a burger, Biggie fries, and Biggie Frosty. "I guess a more appropriate term would be something like 'least intolerable meals at fast-food drive-thrus of my life,' or something along those lines."

Still in relatively good health for a man his age, Rusty Smith then girded himself for the remaining 30 to 40 years before he dies.

I sent Rusty this note,,,

And I thought Americans were the only people who worried about shit like "best years of my life".

If you're ever in SoCal Rusty, stop by, I'll pour you a nice glass of Scotch or make you one of my "Geo Special Martinis" and we can discuss just how fucked up we all are, were and will be.


  1. Oh to be 43 again Bobby. The future would look so bright we'd need a pair of cheap sunglasses. Meanwhile mix me up one of those special martini's and lets talk about what's really fucked up ... Growing fucking old! geo

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  3. Damned depressing but well written. Rusty's got that going for him.
    What kind of antidote to offer a middle aged man who realizes some dreams are now beyond his reach?
    1-We've all been there
    2-Recall what David wrote about a human life...we are like vapor...a mist that appears for a little while and then disappears.
    3-Remember the wisdom of Baba Ram Das-"Be HERE now!"
    4-Yea, Martinis! They were invented for good reason.

  4. You wouldn't believe the martini gift I got just last night. 1.75 liter bottle of Grey Goose, Grey Goose martini glasses (2), Grey Goose martini shaker (glass), Grey Goose martini stirrer. All with the Grey Goose logo. From my neighbor who supplies me with vodka for returning their garbage dumpster to their back door each week after the truck has been by. This delivery was special because she knew I had a birthday coming up. I live a charmed life.

    1. Of course you do, I'll send my I'll send you the best martini recipe if you want it.